I get asked about this a lot so todays blog concerns Cuckold..

I get asked about this a lot so todays blog concerns Cuckolding:

Cuckolding is not a selfless act.

How do I know my girlfriend loves me if I allow her to be with other men for my pleasure?
Does she really like big cock and am I too small for her?
Why is she not jumping at the chance I'm giving her to sleep with someone else!?
If she cums with him why does she hate cuckolding?

If you are asking any of these questions: you are not in any way achieving successful cuckolding. I do not claim to have the answer fully to these questions. But I am hoping my experience with the fears and delusional thinking that surrounds cuckolding- may assist you with finding you way towards sexual happiness.

It is selfish until you consider her real sexual needs in the equation. Full sexual pleasure is not sexual needs. Women find it hard to fully relax with new partners. So what she's probably experiencing is enjoyment from pleasing you not herself. Faking it to some degree. The two can blend together at times. Which makes it confusing to know what she wants. Easiest confirmation of that would be to directly ask her ensuring she knows no answer is wrong.

She may desire the lustful enjoyment of YOU enjoying her taking big cock. Where is the 'we' in that? The 'we' being your sexual happiness as a couple.
She may also want you to know in her heart she loves you. Where's the 'we' in that? If you do not question her love from this act why does she need to worry about this factor? With cuckolding, or any sexual choice as a couple it is imperative you remember the 'we'.

For women (sorry to say) love, security, comfort & intimacy are a key part of our sexual make up- thus enjoyment. So you need to address the issue in two parts. Or two questions:
Is she enjoying this with me?
Is she enjoying this for me?

Enjoying with you is great. Some women were born for cuckolding. For those who are fortunate enough to have married such a woman, so at peace with her love for you, for herself and sexual happiness, that she can engage in sex with another- enjoy that sex- and reconnect without much effort on your part, this blog does not apply to you.

Enjoying FOR YOU is also fine. BUT ONLY IF she is gaining pleasure and wishes to continue to engage in the act. If you find she's avoiding these offers on a plate you may want to consider asking the above question again. The action speaks louder than her sexy texts in dirty talk.

You may also need to accept the horrible reality she would rather have intimate sex with you only.

But then there's another part to the predicament. This time is you and your needs. Which are also equally important.
You like her being with big men and enjoy this with her too. There lies the second part, or question:

"So if she just wants me, that is all she wants, I will still have the urge for her to enjoy others and if I cannot get this from her/ with her where do I relieve the lust?"
The answer to that is obvious. Balance, compromise and you both being willing to try new things, are the only way this can be achieved. You may need to accept sexually there is an incompatibility and nothing, including this blog will change that. That unfortunately, is where my advice to you ends. It is down to you to decide if you are willing to settle for your own limited sexual wellbeing. Very noble. But I can guarantee for you to be fully honest with her you will need to discuss the fact to her too. That you will occasionally have to settle for online enjoyment. See what happens, she may soon be more willing to try. As I said, women are very complicated haha!
I can almost guarantee you don't get the same enjoyment from watching other women online as your wife. You enjoy the watching but the chemistry and personal attachment to that woman is not there so the full essence of the desire isn't fixed. Its banded. With a plaster. Eventually it will run loose and you will find yourself resenting her, through no fault of her own or yours really. This does not lead to sexual wellbeing.

SO following your honesty she's now willing to try again with you:

The answer is communication and balance. We are not mind readers nor you. So you need to continuously engage in frank and honest conversations with her to establish how you can ensure both your needs are met.

For example, she can enjoy taking a large man BUTONLY with the assurance you will not cum until she has finished with him AND re-engaged/ climaxed with you.
Another problem arises here which can sometimes impact this. Your over arousal and Cumming too quickly, which will then leave her unsatisfied. Not in the sense she has not cum. She will possibly have with the male before you. But for her that does not lead to sexual wellbeing as a whole.
As much as men like to pretend they are able to retain sexual stamina, from experience, the better the sexual desire and intensity the faster the orgasm, for both. So for you, seeing what you have been desperate for will make you close very quickly. She is then desperate for a slow guide to orgasm from the love of her life, only to find he's turned into a train that can't hold its load. This is not a positive experience with the man she's chosen to spend her life with.

To ensure both needs are met you possibly (make your own suggestions here) but perhaps you offer to watch her with, and or enjoy her being pleasured by another man (please note this is not her getting what she wants- instead this is her accommodating your desire and accepting her own as a benefit from that). THEN you ensure- as you are likely to be horny- that following this act you take some time to please her and tease her slowly before you jump on top of her and cum.

The results will speak for themselves. Hopefully, in time, becoming an intense sexual experience between you as a couple. Not independently.

Re-connecting and allowing her to get close to YOU TOO and climax before you or soon after you enter her. Please remember again this is not about your enjoyment alone.

It is key that you both experience pleasure before, during and after the event.
Done correctly It will ensure you cum together. Not apart. If you feel entering her will immediately be the end of your fun, ensure she climaxes first. Offer this first, before assuming an opportunity for her to cum with you knowing too well you wont last long enough for this to happen. If you have been with her long enough, you will know if this climax is possible or out of the question. Mistakes happen. We are not saints and practise makes perfect. But If she does not feel she has climaxed in some way with you, the fear of disloyalty and questions of authentic love will remain. Your individual sexual needs are met, as well as engaging in a sexually complete moment together. Whether she came with your cock in her or not essentially. Connection and closeness is vital to women’s pleasure in sex. Feeling safe, secure and fearless is another.