It doesn't matter if the Dom is on top, has the sub held dow..
Added 2023-11-20 22:27:02 +0000 UTCIt doesn't matter if the Dom is on top, has the sub held down, tied up, confined or restrained, as long as it's consensual sex, ultimately the sub is still the one in charge - they're the establishing the "hell yes" and "no" boundaries, and creating the container for what's happening. That's why submission during kink is radically different from and can be a way to heal disempowering sexual or interpersonal experiences. It plays out similar dynamics, but in the context of choice, consent, autonomy and personal power. So, when I say "pin me down", go for it hard because it actually lifts me up 😉
