

I provoke people with my openness about my sexuality, my body, and my chosen lifestyle. A lot. They clutch their pearls. They throw shade. They call me names. They *try* to shame me ....for something I’ve never been ashamed of. 😂 Which makes it amusing. 😂 So all of the tactics they use to try to get me to sit down and pipe down? Well, they waste their breath trying. They can’t dim my shine because no one has that power over me. But you see... I also inspire a lot of people in the process. They tell me openly or privately... but every day I hear either side of their feedback. The difference between the haters and the lovers? There is no difference. Every bit of it comes from people who crave what’s missing in their own lives. They see me living my best life and owning every element of it....and they either hate me or love me as a result. And if they hate me? There’s a part of themselves they hate that they are projecting into me. And for all the people who love me? There’s a part of themselves they want to love more and can see the capacity I have to love and be loved. They love to love. They also love that I have depth in my own ability to love so freely and openly. They all see parts of themselves within me. How they react is how they see themselves. Which brings me to WHY I do what I do and do it so openly. I’m uniquely positioned to be as open as I am about my life. First, I don’t have a job I could lose or a boss to please. I love doing what I do so much that I have monetized it - which means I’ll never have to “work” for anyone else again. Second, my kids are adults now and two out of three of them have embraced their own unique identities as a result of me embracing mine. Third, I am invisible to my haters, which started with my ex (probably the biggest hater I have of them all). Those who hate me on that level are forbidden from ever speaking to me again. My physical address is not even found on Google. My inboxes become echo chambers. 😂 Finally, my partners are also anonymous. If they make it into my inner circle, they get their own nicknames so I can tell stories openly about our bonds and our adventures. And if you see me tagged in a photo with someone else? Odds are we aren’t intimate with each other at all. And those who do associate with me despite my lifestyle? They are my TRIBE and I’m so blessed to be surrounded by non-judgmental people. As open as I am, even using my real name... is anonymized enough for me to be hiding in plain site. No one will ever guess who is who. And if they know me or my lovers personally? They know enough to know not to jeopardize our identities and will keep our privacy intact. And all of that’s so fucking amazing to me. I don’t do it for attention. I get plenty of attention already. I do it because I DON’T worry about the attention I get ...or who it comes from. I don’t do it from an egoic place, either. It’s my soul speaking out about what matters to me the most while I walk in my life’s path of finding my own pleasure instead of living in any level of suffering or pain. I am liberated and free in every way possible. If my family is upset? Not my problem. It’s my life, not theirs If friends or lovers get upset? They are welcome to leave. But if they stay then they have boundaries to respect if they want to have a place in my life. If strangers get upset? Again... I’m displaying my life in full view and if that’s upsetting, they are welcome to find a different space to spend their time. I call that process “God weeding out my garden”. My life sorted out into a beautiful display of who truly matters to me the most, and who I matter the most to as well. You see, it takes confidence to embrace exactly who you are and to live it fully and unapologetically. It takes confidence to show your imperfect body, your imperfect life, and your imperfect smile... but the way I see it is this...if you are smiling then who cares how you achieve and maintain that happiness? We are all consenting adults operating ethically and openly. It takes confidence to go into spaces of intimacy with multiple people simultaneously, which is vulnerability at a core level. And I fiercely protect my right to be all of me, all of the time. So let me ask: What would you do with your life if you had more confidence? Think about it. Think about it some more. Get really good and clear about it. Now, go do it. Take one small step in that direction. And if it frightens you? That’s a good sign. You should be fucking terrified. Terrified if you do, or terrified if you don’t. Whatever it is that terrifies you, I’d love to keep showing you how to have the confidence and courage you need to live your life exactly as you crave to live it. Do you, boo. Always. You are free when no one holds any power over you, and I’m living proof of how that works. https://linktr.ee/polycougar